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Interracial DATING . . .

Now I am glad I am on a civilized Website where I can tackle this subject

I am a black man :)fdevil: ) and I find women of all races attractive. I like women that I think look good. Black Women, White women, Asian Women, Arabic Women, Indian (from India) Women, and Latin Women.

I went on a date (twice) with a white woman (brunette) and that was it. I have never had intimate relationships with women of other races. I see that love and lust have no color.

Now, I will not say all women are the same. The beauty of white women is different than the beauty of black women. The beauty of Asian women is different than the beauty of Latin women (Bentleys and Rolls Royces are good looking cards but different).

For those of you who Interracial date or would my question is why?

For those of you who don't my question is why?

Be honest. . .

One thing I want to get through folks heads though is racial stereotypes are not true, not all black men want a white woman and not all European women want black man. There are some who date just to date women of other races who folks in their own race wouldn't date.

If I am going to date a woman of anothe race, like a white woman better believe she is not going to be 400lbs full of warts and acne with 18 kids,
she's going to be the same high quality I expect from black and latin women,
a good woman like Spellbinder. . .:) I think I am too much for her :fdevil:
 
Before I met my fiance, whose a white woman and I'm a white woman too I found black men very appealing. Spellbinder and I would always discuss our love for "chocolate." :D Of course my parents objected to me ever dating a black man because of the racial background, which I thought was crap!

Black men are very suave and they can DRESS very well, the ones I'm friends with. They know how to treat a woman and they are amazing lovers (from what Farrah tells me). I think black men are fabulous, have I ever dated or had relations? No, but I respect anyone who dates an African American. I also believe what women should have the chance to date whoever she deems. I always hated when black women would say "you take all our men." It was never said to me but you hear about it or even see it in movies such as Save the last dance.

I've always thought outside of the "box," I guess I was always a free spirit. I think as long as someone is happy they should be allowed to date whoever they wish, whether its color, sex, religion, etc. :angel:
 
It is weird.. I love girls of all colors and races and whatnot, but I looked back recently, and found that I had only dated one white girl in my entire life. The rest were either Hispanic or Black LOL ;)

Being a White Male, I find that pretty strange, but I did grow up in a town called Chico, so what do you expect, I guess I like the Latin Ladies!
 
White Female dropping her two cents....

Well.... if you couldn't tell from my various posts on the boards... I find black men quite attractive. I also find some hispanic and white men attractive, etc.

I judge attraction on a case by case basis, lol, I don't care if you are white, black, tan, or BLUE... if you're attractive then that's what you are. And I've found many a white man, many a black man, many a latin man attractive.

*stops to purr at all the attractive men* :hehe:

In the past [and currently], my significant others [all TWO of them, LOL] have been white... I'm a long-term relationship person and I believe in monogamy. I would date a black man, and if I found a man of another race suitable, I would marry him. I dont think interracial dating should be such an issue, honestly. It's inevitable eventually, lol, if you think forward a few thousand years.
 
without resorting to the cliched expressions that some people would use in discussions like this...i will just say this:

when i lost my virginity (in my freshmen year of college) the person whom i was intimate happend to be black. it wasnt anything that i had planned out prior to (in terms of what race the person whom i gave myself to would be). it just worked out that way. He was my boyfriend and he was very good to me even before we became intimate. I experienced many wonderful things with him..and we learned from each other. the fact that he was black meant nothing to me but the experiences and memories (we were together for quite a while) are what have caused me to develope a preference for black men.

I do enjoy the company of black men. they are beautiful in all ways...and I find that I can be myself in all ways with a black man and he revels in it just as i allow him to be free with me and in encourage it.
 
Spellbinder said:
without resorting to the cliched expressions that some people would use in discussions like this...i will just say this:

when i lost my virginity (in my freshmen year of college) the person whom i was intimate happend to be black. it wasnt anything that i had planned out prior to (in terms of what race the person whom i gave myself to would be). it just worked out that way. He was my boyfriend and he was very good to me even before we became intimate. I experienced many wonderful things with him..and we learned from each other. the fact that he was black meant nothing to me but the experiences and memories (we were together for quite a while) are what have caused me to develope a preference for black men.

I do enjoy the company of black men. they are beautiful in all ways...and I find that I can be myself in all ways with a black man and he revels in it just as i allow him to be free with me and in encourage it.
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I like you too white woman :eek:
 
I'm asian and I tend to find that I'm not attracted to asian men at all. Asian being that my roots are from pakistan and india. I tend to find myself attracted to guys that are white or mixed-race - white/hawaian etc...

It's not something that my parents would be too pleased with but I can't change my taste. I don't have a lot of asian male friends either, the ones I know tend to clash with my personality.
 
Another white woman dropping in...

I've never really been interested in someone of another race, though my best friends in high school and college were black men. Though I can find men of all types (lol) physically attractive, I've just never been emotionally attracted to someone of another race for whatever reason. Which I would say is probably that I've just not met the right person. I don't have a problem with people who date people of other races than them though - I think it just comes down to a personal preference and what each person finds attractive.

:)
 
Well, I suppose I'm a huge supporter of Inter-Racial dating, because...I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for interractial dating!;). My Father was attracted to my Mother because they loved each other; color is just color in my opinion- if your attracted to someone, it doesn't matter if their a different color, attraction is attraction.

However, I suppose experiance wise- I wouldn't be the best candidate; seeing I'm only 14 years old- and have been in a hugely commited, long term relationship for years (I know- a 14 year old who's commited!?^_~), however- before I met my current girl friend- who happens to be mixed as well- her mom white and her dad black, I dated a few white girls, a few black- and I think just one was hispanic, from Nicargua if I remember right:shrug:. Anyways, I don't think color is an issues in dating- its just color- and although I admit certain people of differrent races have differrent lifestyles of others, or clothing preferances etc. Color is color, and if you are attracted to someone- don't let the color of their skin stop you from expressing yourself.
 
Okay, so I don't even think about race when I start dating someone. It's just not a factor. As long as I'm attracted to someone and I like them it's all good. I don't see what the big deal is.

I've dated men from different races. Most of my family could care less. I have bi-racial cousins and my cousin Michelle only dates black men. (that's where the bi-racial cousins come from) The only one that's ever had a problem was my grandfather and it wasn't so much me dating black men as me dating anyone who wasn't Italian and Roman Catholic. At this point he doesn't care as long as I get married and have more grand-babies. Apperantly I'm an old maid at 20. *rolls eyes and laughs*

Okay, done with the rambling, just wanted to say that I don't get the big deal out of inter-racial dating.
 
To me I do see and don't see the big deal. I see the beauty in Intraracial dating, keeping our kind going, all races are beautiful but different.

I can interracial it's all about the family of humanity. . . .

What I don't see is "I only date this race or I don't date this race" to me that's silly

But to each his or her own love and being treated well iare the main things.
 
ZorCrow said:
What I don't see is "I only date this race or I don't date this race" to me that's silly
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I think the reason why they only date a certain race is what I worry about. My cousin only dates black men because that's who she is attractive to. It's the physical body type she enjoys. (and maybe more then that. I don't know)

I don't think dating only a certain race because of prejudism or stereotyping about certain races is right though and I think a lot of people do that. Someone's race shouldn't be an issue if you like the person.
 
I have never been in a interacial relationship, primarily due to cultural bias and taboo. When I was at the age where I started dating, I never approached white women due to what my family would say, besides living in NC and all the racism, I decided it wasnt worth the controversy. While I was in the Marine Corps I had two "experiences" with white women but not enough to know what Im talking about...

Im still a little biased, probably scared or shy about it, and while I dont' have a problem with black men dating outside their race, for some reason it bothers me to see a black women do the same thing. The infamous double-standard. I need help....

I don't know, with all the bad choices I have made with women, I should try something different. I just wasnt aware how many white women actually liked black men! I guess Im finally joining the real world huh?
 
don't be misled darling, we all congregate on this here board.... there are four of us white women fond of black men. :D [obviously, im just kidding]

but anyways... i was curious, why do you think it bothers you for black women to date inter-racially?
 
Titania said:
don't be misled darling, we all congregate on this here board.... there are four of us white women fond of black men. :D [obviously, im just kidding]

but anyways... i was curious, why do you think it bothers you for black women to date inter-racially?
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I have no clue, Im messed up in the head, I guess. There are so many racial and cultural stereotypes that are fed to the black male youth about white men and women in some cases, that it takes alot of outside experience and growing up to shake them. Im still in the growing and learning phase about alot of these biases and Im evolving everyday. As I continue to experience new things I begin to let these biases go. My cousin is actually married to a white man, and I love him like family, yet, when im at the mall and see the same thing I get disturbed. Its a mental condition I guess...give me a couple of years.
 
i think by being willing to openly and honestly discuss interracial dating, it takes us one step closer to easing at least SOME of the underlying racial tension that effects us all.

to say that "racism is dead" or whatever because its 2005 is a totally false.

and even though its been nearly 30 years since "laws" against interracial marraige/dating have been abolished from most states that once carried them, there are still alot of skewed ideas on this subject.

ive heard and seen some really harsh statements on this matter....and usually it comes form people (white and black) who have NEVER dated outside their race...or been really exposed to multi cultural situations.

i grew up in a middle class environment yet i was fortunate enough to live in an area that wasnt "white washed" and so that really helped broaden my mind and heart's experiences.

some people that i've discussed this with....act as though ive just commited blasphemy for even suggesting such an idea. :confused:
 
My Co Worker who is interracial (white and black) has a white wife.
Well she comes home crying some days because her white co workers when they are all alone will rip black people left and right, and when she goes places and only white people are only there, she hears them rip black people as well. She is upset becaues her husband is black, and her children are black and she knows they are speaking against them.

I know there are white women who have children by black men, and have dated black men, my question is have you been exposed by to such comments and treatment and how did you handle it?
 
i think we had another thread about this..and YOU started it...so when i can find it in this forum, ill merge the two. ;)

anyhow...yes i know how that woman feels...although i didnt cry...i just got upset and totally frustrated. my response was to stand up and fight back. I didnt have to worry about pleasing them..because in most cases they werent friends or family. Skin color prejudice is so ridiculous...and so pointless. There was no reason for me to appease the selfish, narrowminded hearts and minds of people who were so foolish as to speak like that about black people.

even if it WERE a family member or a friend ...i would definately cal them on it and try to talk to them about it. If it appeared that there was no reasoning with them...then i would have to significantly limit my time with them...and reevaulate my view of them.
 
It' s weird because I know how some BLACK folk talk when whites aren't around. Using racial slurs, saying all whites are the devil, stuff like that isnt' right. Even though all my relatives and family members are black, still it's not right. Two wrongs dont' make a right. sometimes I get angry at the racial prejudice shown to me, and I get the mentality that all white people are evil, some days I have to fight it really hard, one day recently came home and said, "I hate white people, they are all evil,
they are the devil, they are destructive, they can have their no butt ugly women,
they can have their neighborhoods and culture, they can have their world!"

That's not the way to be, not at all. I even told the same co worker, "I don't trust white folk, they all the same." I have to fight that mentality, as I know some whites have to fight it as well. We can't let the foolishness of other people make us stupid.
 
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